Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Marriage and Divorce – To make Divorce Final or Think Alternative?

Marriage and divorce can be argued in either way which depends(depending) on the individual. The opinion of a third person cannot help much in this matter. The opinion of the experienced alone can be considered as the best guide but that too should be without selfish base. Some persons may serve advice for divorce as the best choice while many may not be for it. If thought well, divorce as a final solution could cause more miserable consequences than one can actually imagine. After thinking well about family law of divorce, it may be finalized that all other alternatives are done away as impossible things to consider. The two sided problem can be felt well only by a person being in a dilemma as to choose ‘divorce’ or ‘adjust with’.

Seeking for lawyers:
Most of the lawyers are in general to serve professionally as needed by the client. No doubt they are the competent persons to give points for and against the problem on hand. Well, they are always to remind you the all ways and consequences of divorce either leading to peace or being thrown to misery. But there is the danger of the psychological nature with the lawyers to suggest you strong points in a close line with your ambitions with professional catch interest. So, a lawyer cannot be the right person in the issue of marriage and divorce to guide you to legal separation and divorce or help relationship to live together with all adjustments or to have a final break relation.

Seeking for a marriage counselor:
Family counseling is in most of the cases to suggest negative points against divorce. In spite of their expertness a counselor’s interest is to promote mutual understanding and adjustments by putting an end to relationship issues in between the couple. The torturous life of the problematic couple cannot be realized as a whole by a counselor whatever may be his experience and knowledge in offering a counseling service. Only with a very rare and a few extreme cases, a counselor chooses to give advice for divorce.

Divorce or to go adjusting:
The choice is with the couple involved with the torturous life. The final decision is with the grieved persons. If divorce is the route you choose with all grounds for divorce, it tells upon your children also. It is a general fact that the children of broken marriages are the most affected and sufferers. So, there is the need to think well before deciding for divorce.

If the choice is for the other alternative of going with adjustments, the chance for the same should be confirmed by both. Remember, if it breaks again the consequences will be still worse than before with a broken heart. So, much concern is there even for second thoughts against choosing divorce.

It is for your welfare that you make time to interpreting the pros and cons of marriage and divorce and decide to choose for adjusting with your spouse and stop choosing divorce to enlighten your future.

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